People ask me-- why do I care so much about how successful someone else becomes? Why does it matter to me if someone chooses not to live up to their potential? Why do I care if someone is not motivated about their life? I care because I know how it feels to think that you are less than or not worth much. I know how hopeless it gets when you feel like no matter how much good you do-- you will never achieve much. I know how it feels when your past failures cloud your vision for a better future. I know what it feels like to self medicate in order to numb all the pain. I know how it feels when the burden and the pain gets to be too much that you rather end it all. I care because I know we all have our purpose in life in order for the world to remain in motion. Everyone is not supposed to be a doctor, lawyer, garbage man, flight attendant, police officer, teacher, preacher, school bus driver, accountant or even funeral director. Everyone has their individual specific purpose in life to keep things moving but none of that will happen unless you figure out what makes you happy and what your purpose is, therefore--- THIS is my purpose. I ask you to find your purpose and go get it!!! As always, the CHOICE is YOURS. Jamillah Douglas~ Empower U

You may find that you are constantly saying that you want to find love and happiness, yet you continue to fight for relationships that you need to let go of and easily quit on your life dreams that you should be fighting for. You cannot have it both ways-- you need to open yours eyes and get your priorities in order if you truly want the love and happiness that you deserve.

We all make mistakes in our lives but you have to realize where people are in their life journey and know when to let go. Dating is the time that you use to determine someone's character, loyalty, if they are trustworthy and if they are in line with the standards and boundaries that you set for your relationships- it's a weeding out process, not the falling in love, making babies process. Therefore this is the time that you take to observe things about that person that are deal breakers-- everyone has all the great qualities when we first meet them, that's why you started dating in the first place. You have to be patient enough to really get to know someone and see if they do things, say things or have issues in their life right now that you do not want to deal with possibly for the rest of your life. That does not mean that they are a bad person and things for them won't eventually get better--they just aren't a match for you where you are right now in your journey. There are plenty of people that have a past but have turned their life around and are available for you. Why would you choose to fight for someone if they have not gotten to the point of fighting for themselves? Then you get married or bring innocent children into a situation that you could have avoided, then you turn around and complain about someone that was not ready to change but you chose to overlook the issues for the sake of being in a relationship.

When it comes to your life dreams and goals you settle for the way things are right now instead of fighting to do better. It does not matter if you are working at McDonalds as a cashier-- figure out what you need to do to become the manager and then work on owning a McDonalds. If you are a cashier, talk to the manager about the things you need to do to get promoted, etc... Instead, obstacles get in your way then you quit trying to achieve more. Then you complain that the job sucks when you could be doing more to advance your situation.

A lot people get defensive when I say these things, but those are the people going in circles from one bad relationship to the next instead of trying something different-- especially if what you are currently doing isn't working. DATE before you commit to a relationship. Let go of the people you date that are not a match. Work on doing research on the internet, library or talk to people that have achieved the things that you are striving for so that you can progress in your field and perfect your craft. Fight for your dreams. As always, the choice is yours.

Jamillah Foulkes~ Empower U

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Accepting that life is challenging is a given. Understanding that life is always going to throw you a curve ball does not mean that you stand by while the people most important to you treat you poorly. That is called settling. You are betraying yourself when you accept poor behavior. You accept poor behavior because you tell yourself “that’s just how mama is and always will be” or ” they really don’t mean any harm”. Believe it or not it does cause harm. Each day that you settle and accept poor behavior towards you from your spouse, partner, friend, co-worker or whomever, it slowly chips away at who you are. It chips away at your soul like a cancer, and if multiple people are constantly chipping away then slowly you will find that your soul has nothing left. You have that numb feeling of indifference in your heart.

You know it’s happening. It’s those days when you feel like crying and you have no idea why. Those days when you feel like you gave everything of yourself and you have nothing left to give. It’s those days when you see the text messages coming in yet you don’t want to reply. Or even those days when you are out with your friends or having a quiet night with your lover yet you still feel empty.

There comes a time when you have to feed and replenish your soul. You pray to heal the person mistreating you and yet nothing seems to change. It may seem as if your prayers are answered when they treat you well for a couple days but then it’s right back to the same stuff. I challenge you to pray for your own strength and encouragement to make the changes you need to replenish your soul. Pray to gain insight and clarity so you can overcome whatever the fear is that is rendering you powerless to remove yourself from the people chipping away at your soul. It is not selfish to take care of yourself and your needs. You can no longer betray yourself.

It is time to take action without fear of judgement but with empowerment. As always, the choice is yours.

Jamillah Foulkes~Empower U

Accepting that life is challenging is a given. Understanding that life is always going to throw you a curve ball does not mean that you stand by while the people most important to you treat you poorly. That is called settling. You are betraying yourself when you accept poor behavior. You accept poor behavior because you tell yourself "that's just how mama is and always will be" or " they really don't mean any harm". Believe it or not it does cause harm. Each day that you settle and accept poor behavior towards you from your spouse, partner, friend, co-worker or whomever, it slowly chips away at who you are. It chips away at your soul like a cancer, and if multiple people are constantly chipping away then slowly you will find that your soul has nothing left. You have that numb feeling of indifference in your heart.

You know it's happening. It's those days when you feel like crying and you have no idea why. Those days when you feel like you gave everything of yourself and you have nothing left to give. It's those days when you see the text messages coming in yet you don't want to reply. Or even those days when you are out with your friends or having a quiet night with your lover yet you still feel empty.

There comes a time when you have to feed and replenish your soul. You pray to heal the person mistreating you and yet nothing seems to change. It may seem as if your prayers are answered when they treat you well for a couple days but then it's right back to the same stuff. I challenge you to pray for your own strength and encouragement to make the changes you need to replenish your soul. Pray to gain insight and clarity so you can overcome whatever the fear is that is rendering you powerless to remove yourself from the people chipping away at your soul. It is not selfish to take care of yourself and your needs. You can no longer betray yourself.

It is time to take action without fear of judgement but with empowerment. As always, the choice is yours.

Jamillah Foulkes~ Empower U

People are successful and find peace in their life and relationships because they took the time to figure out their purpose, their reason for being. When you choose to do nothing you are settling for less than what you are destined to become. You are cheating yourself out of being fulfilled in the only life you have. In order to find purpose you have to start having “real talk” conversations with yourself about what truly makes you happy. You also need to determine if you are surrounding yourself with people that have achieved their goals or are at least on that path. Majority of the time you will talk yourself out of your dreams and ambitions because you are afraid to fail. The voice in your head starts questioning everything, then you begin to list the reasons why you cannot achieve your goals. The negative talk needs to stop. Failing does not mean you are a failure, it merely means you need to find another way of doing things. You will never know unless you try.

You have to step outside your comfort zone. When you become frustrated with how things are going in your life that is the universe telling you it’s time for change. That does not mean you cannot weigh the pros versus the cons in order to come up with a plan to achieve your goals. There will be road blocks along the way. You cannot have change without taking action in your life and start taking risks. As always, the choice is yours.

Register today for a sample session so you can stop riding as a passenger in your life and become the conductor.

Jamillah Foulkes~Empower U

Hello Friends,

I am thankful you took the time to start making positive change towards healthy relationships your life. In this busy world we juggle work, family, friends and our social life, but we don't take the time to focus on how those relationships affect us. A lot of times you may sit around in miserable relationships because you feel obligated or that you cannot do better. I see this a lot with adult children and their parents. The parent is constantly belittling them, talking down to them or just not acknowledging them as an adult that can make decisions in their life. When that happens the reasoning that people always tell themselves is "that's my mom" or "that's my dad". This reasoning can occur in any relationship. Friends taking advantage of your kindness, you are always there to support them and when you need support they aren't emotionally available or always steals the spotlight. Spouses or partners not acknowledging your needs. Notice I said your needs not your wants. You teach people how to treat you and until you decide that you are a valued person that will be treated with love and respect, you will remain miserable and even become resentful. As always, the choice is yours

Today is the day that you become the conductor of the relationships in your life~Start Reviving your Relationships

Jamillah Foulkes~Empower U